Get your child to listen & cooperate without shouting, bribes or guilt. 

For smart, caring parents who just want the fighting to stop and to enjoy family life again (the way they thought they would) 

10 Parenting Tips for a Deeper Connection with Your Child

Today's post is a how-to guide to help you feel really connected with your child. Maybe you're already trying to prioritise one-to-one connecting time with your child, but you're finding that it's not making the difference… because at other times you're finding you're...

Parenting Advice – Are You Being Strict Enough?

  'My husband says I'm not strict enough. He says I'm letting the children run rings around me.' This mum wanted to know what I thought. Watch the video or scroll down to read more...   I hear this question often. There can be advantages to strictness - and that's why...

Practical Parenting Tips to Teach Children Right from Wrong

Firstly, what do we mean by teaching children right from wrong? We mean we want them to learn: to tell the truth; not to be rude; to be kind and respectful to other people; not to litter etc. These are the type of things we mean when we say we want to teach children...

Practical Parenting Advice – Parenting by Connection

Last Sunday I had barely walked in the door when my son came up to me and said, “It was really bad. I’m just not ready to live on my own…” Watch the video or scroll down to read more... https://youtu.be/6AU5gMZTUtQ I'd been away on a training and although I had...

9 Parenting Tips to Get your Child to Co-Operate!

Did you know that 80% of our conversations with children are about getting them to do things? That means that we're spending 80% of the time, when we're talking to our children, possibly nagging. I'm sure last thing you want to be doing is nagging. I mean, who wants...

Practical Parenting Tips – How Not to Raise a Brat!

As parents, none of us want to raise a brat. No one wants to have an entitled child or a spoiled child. So how do we achieve this? Because it can so easily happen. If your child has ever been rude or ungrateful, or they've apparently overreacted to some small thing,...

Parenting Tips for When Your Angry Child Overreacts

If you're finding that one of your children is: exploding, thumping a sibling, hitting you, shouting, having meltdowns at the smallest provocation, or minor setbacks, ... today's blog gives you three positive ways forward that will help.   Watch the video, or scroll...

Positive Parenting for When We May be Unintentionally Traumatising our Children

  I have a vision of a world where parents and children connect easily, families feel relaxed and happy together and children are emotionally secure. But I know from talking to many parents that reality can turn out very different from this. Even if we're...

Gentle Parenting Tips to Teach Children to Share

Hannah Devlin, science editor of the Times, wrote that “Children are more likely to learn to share if they are encouraged to part with a toy of their own accord rather than being forced to hand it over.”  She was reporting a study published in the Journal of...

What Difference does Positive Parenting Actually Make?

Are you baffled by just how unreasonable your children can be - whether it’s refusing to get off a screen or trying to stop you leaving the house? And have you considered whether Positive Parenting might be your ticket to an easier life? A False Premise Before I...

The 3 CORE NEEDS Children have that Underpin Good Behaviour

Children have three core needs that I believe every parent needs to know about. Because when these three core needs are met: children are peaceful and behave well; children become happy, thriving, secure future adults. In this blog I will share, firstly, what these...

Is Trying To Make Your Child Happy a Trap?

Is it a trap to try and make your child happy? This might seem like quite a surprising question because of course you want your children to be happy. But is it a trap to try and make them happy? I was reminded of this question last week when a mum I'm working with...

5 Steps to Create a Play Space that Fires Your Child’s Imagination

Today, I'm sharing five steps that will help you create a play space that really fires your child's imagination. And this is for you if you're hearing things like, "Bored! Can I go on the iPad?” Or if you just simply want your child to thrive! Because good play is an...

How to Create a Play Space that Fires Your Child’s Imagination

This week, I'm talking about how you can create a play space that really fires your child's imagination and inspires your children to play more - without you spending a penny. This is for you, if you're like a couple I was speaking to recently. They said, “Our...

Happy Family at Home – My New Offering

Today, l am excited to announce that I have a new offering to share with you - Happy Family at Home. This new offering makes it possible to connect at a deeper level. If this sounds interesting to you, read on and I’ll tell you all about it. In all my videos, blogs...

Childhood

Is Trying To Make Your Child Happy a Trap?

Is it a trap to try and make your child happy? This might seem like quite a surprising question because of course you want your children to be happy. But is it a trap to try and make them happy? I was reminded of this question last week when a mum I'm working with...

How to Create a Play Space that Fires Your Child’s Imagination

This week, I'm talking about how you can create a play space that really fires your child's imagination and inspires your children to play more - without you spending a penny. This is for you, if you're like a couple I was speaking to recently. They said, “Our...

Happy Family at Home – My New Offering

Today, l am excited to announce that I have a new offering to share with you - Happy Family at Home. This new offering makes it possible to connect at a deeper level. If this sounds interesting to you, read on and I’ll tell you all about it. In all my videos, blogs...

3 Steps to Calm When Your Child is Sitting on an Angry Volcano

In this blog you'll get three steps to calm for when your child is sitting an angry volcano, with outbursts and aggressive behaviour.    Recently I was at a gathering where one of the women shared that her son had been angry in this way. Very angry. She and...

How to Set Screen Time Limits in the Family

This is the third and last in the current series about screen time. Today, I’m looking at how you can reduce screen time by setting some boundaries in the family. Screens were an invaluable support for over-stretched parents during lockdown. But now that we are...

3 Key Steps for Reducing the Screen Time Menace

Today, we're continuing on the theme of screen time and I'm going to share with you three key steps for reducing screen time, which I think is going to make the whole process feel a lot easier and more actionable for you. How do you feel when you think about your...

Parenting

How to Create a Play Space that Fires Your Child’s Imagination

This week, I'm talking about how you can create a play space that really fires your child's imagination and inspires your children to play more - without you spending a penny. This is for you, if you're like a couple I was speaking to recently. They said, “Our...

Happy Family at Home – My New Offering

Today, l am excited to announce that I have a new offering to share with you - Happy Family at Home. This new offering makes it possible to connect at a deeper level. If this sounds interesting to you, read on and I’ll tell you all about it. In all my videos, blogs...

3 Steps to Calm When Your Child is Sitting on an Angry Volcano

In this blog you'll get three steps to calm for when your child is sitting an angry volcano, with outbursts and aggressive behaviour.    Recently I was at a gathering where one of the women shared that her son had been angry in this way. Very angry. She and...

The Simple Secret of a Calm Morning

One thing about mornings is that there’s this deadline, isn’t there? You know when you need to leave by, and that looms over you, causing a sense of pressure and a feeling of being a bit stressed. But if there’s less to do, you’re able to slow down and be more available…

Parenting Courses

Happy Family at Home – My New Offering

Today, l am excited to announce that I have a new offering to share with you - Happy Family at Home. This new offering makes it possible to connect at a deeper level. If this sounds interesting to you, read on and I’ll tell you all about it. In all my videos, blogs...

3 Steps to Calm When Your Child is Sitting on an Angry Volcano

In this blog you'll get three steps to calm for when your child is sitting an angry volcano, with outbursts and aggressive behaviour.    Recently I was at a gathering where one of the women shared that her son had been angry in this way. Very angry. She and...

The Simple Secret of a Calm Morning

One thing about mornings is that there’s this deadline, isn’t there? You know when you need to leave by, and that looms over you, causing a sense of pressure and a feeling of being a bit stressed. But if there’s less to do, you’re able to slow down and be more available…

3 Great Reasons Parents Take My Parenting Courses

Perhaps you’ve considered getting support with your parenting and would be interested in knowing what’s motivated other people to explore taking that step? All the parents who work with me are really committed to their parenting. But what reasons drive parents like you to choose me?

Take back control of your children’s behaviour

Be the calm, confident parent you want to be 

Create the happy family you’ve always wanted

I see you.

When you started your family, no one told you what it would take to get your children to actually do what you need them to do!  You didn’t expect the struggle to stay calm – or the kick-offs about such seemingly small things. You love your kids and you’re a capable professional person – why is it so hard?

The good news is that we can very quickly restore peace at home. 

I’ve worked with hundreds of families with children of all ages, from babies to teenagers, and every single one of my clients says a version of ‘our family life is completely different now’ thanks to our work together – even when children are neuro-divergent or when a parent feels ‘we are un-helpable’.
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This is what my clients experience after working with me (and you can too)

Explosive meltdowns become rare - and you know exactly how to handle them when they do happen.

Kids who want to listen and cooperate - because they feel connected, understood and secure at home.

Mornings, bedtimes, and family time actually feel fun - no more dreading the daily routines or tiptoeing around blow-ups.

You stop second-guessing yourself. You know you’re being the calm, confident parent your child needs.

You feel genuinely close to your kids again—even if things have been rocky for years.

And maybe most important—you go to bed at night actually liking the parent you are being and proud of the family you’re raising.

Start creating more calm and connection today by downloading my free guide to raising a secure and happy family:

Solve the Struggle with your Kids.

Curious? Here’s how it works when you do my Three Steps to Thriving 1-to-1 programme:

1. We do a Relationship Reset

With my help, you stop the cycle of shouting and guilt and learn how to bring your child close.

2. We find your child’s Willingness Switch

I show you how to avoid the classic ‘ask-mistakes’ and instead use proven strategies to get ‘yes’ first time.

3. We set up Supportive Structures

I help you put an end to chaos and overwhelm by introducing routines and boundaries that create a new, peaceful normal for you and your family.

Ready to start thriving? Book a free call with me to find out more.

‘We were trapped in a miserable thing – and it didn’t seem as if there was any way of getting out of it. Without Oona it would have been impossible. She’s been with us every step of the way, in a way I didn’t think was possible. She wasn’t preachy or judgmental, which made it easy to be completely honest about how things are. Oona was on our team, like a guardian angel. I am so grateful that we now have a happy family life.’
Joanna Taylor

Mum of 3 children, 13, 9 and 3

Parents come to me because they’ve tried everything.

They’ve tried being nice and explaining things. They’ve tried reward charts, threats and punishments. Nothing has worked.

Why? Because these techniques ignore what’s most important: the reason why your child’s behaviour is challenging. 

When you work with me, the reason why is front and centre. This very quickly completely changes everything you do and say as a parent. Now you’re talking your children’s language. This means they want to listen and do what you say – yes, really. So you literally don’t need to shout any more. 

I know you love your children and want them to be happy. So let’s have a conversation. Book your complimentary call and I look forward to speaking with you.

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Oona Alexander
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